Weeks 3 and 4
The seemingly improbable task of building a self-sustaining forum in Nkosi’s Haven has discouraged me on many occasions to continue the work in establishing the forum. The idea was to have a forum for the boys and the girls to focus their energies and express their thoughts.
It appears that there is a sense of jealousy and administrators are systematically trying to dislodge the forum. On several occasions during the past two weeks, the administration has tried time and time again to interfere with forum plans. The adults in the community are patronizing the forum leaders, and its increasingly affecting and causing those involved in the forum to discontinue their role in the group.
“You guys are sitting here with your legs open, your rooms are dirty, and you want us to support your forum,” is the response heard from at least one adult.
The forum leaders are concerned that the lack of support from the adults in the community has led the participants of the forum to be discouraged. I’ve noticed that the deliberate attempts to discourage those partaking or affiliated with the program and this has led me to speculate of the imminent role of these adults. These are the very adults who have chosen to work in a community put in place to support neglected kids, orphans and the sick. It has been utterly disappointing to witness firsthand, how detrimental the adults can be in the development of the kids.
Despite the odds, my forum leaders are resilient and inspired, not to be dissuaded by the doubts and lack of support they’re facing. The forum leaders have realized that the adversity they are facing is going to be a challenging ordeal to overcome. But time and time again, we all are making plans on how to address the administration, and sustain the very strong unit we’ve worked tirelessly for.
Please make no mistake about it, we are motivated and inspired by people’s ill energy towards us.
I, as the forum founder, am committed to see to it that these eager and bright leaders stay above the negative influence. I have been challenged on many occasions to step down; the work environment has become rather hostile. I’ve failed at including Hannah in the project as much as I should have, and I take full responsibility of that. I am aware of the difficulty of engaging in humanitarian effort work, but have also learned that without a clear mind, you’re bound to be ineffective. I believe that there where times when my mind and my inability to de-stress has led me to make irrational dissensions. But I’ve realized my shortcomings and have not given up on my ability to succeed in achieving and instilling a self-sustaining forum.
During the next week, the boys’ forum will present two proposals to Gail Johnson. One of the proposals is regarding a developmental soccer programs as a means for the boys to learn the essential skills of being a part of a team. In the soccer program, the leaders will try to correlate life values in the games. We will make communication a very big part of the game. Just as I was taught by my coach, Owen Finberg, about communicating while playing during a match, the leaders will try their best to instill that same principle. The other proposal will be regarding community service and camps.
The following week, we will be finishing up with the Forum Constitution and the code of conduct we will be expecting every participant to abide by. The girls’ forum has already signed contracts, and we’ll see to it that the boys who are interested in participating in the forum also sign.